I don’t understand why in 2019 we are still having to talk about cyber bullying, hate, judgement and ridicule. I’m not one to EVER comment hateful or nasty things on people’s social media accounts, or do that in real life for a matter of fact, and I really cannot fathom nor understand why people are still doing this. Is it hate? Is it jealousy? Or is it just the fact that people now a days are so busy critiquing other people’s successes that they do not have time to better their own? Since when did it become okay to put down others. Since when did it become okay to criticise, punish and be spiteful of what others choose to do with their lives. And since when did it become okay to be an asshole!! (FYI, it’s not okay).
I sat down the other night and watched the ARIA’s. I was in awe of the beauty, the happiness and the talent that singers and songwriters were producing right in front of my eyes. However, one particular moment that has stuck with me since then is Tones and I, who is an incredible female Aussie artist smashing life. She got up on the stage after winning an award. Her hat was covering her eyes, she looked down, seeming incredibly nervous and gave her speech. Within this speech she talked about what it is to be a female, what is takes to be brave and how important it is to just be you. This amazing woman is sending such a good message; to both males and females and those who chose to be neither and it’s about time we start listening. I’m positive that even though she is currently the world’s best female artist, there would be people out there hating her, hating her music and well and truly letting it be known. I know it would hurt and I know that she would probably want to throw in the towel but she hasn’t. She has chosen to stand up to the hate, stand up to the judgement and be herself. We need to take a page out of Tones and I’s book. It’s time to stick your middle finger in the air and say “This is me and I will not apologise!”.
I’m not here to preach about anyone’s behaviour or words in particular nor am I here to tell anybody how to live (just wanna say though, don’t be an asshole, it’s simple). I’m here to tell you that its okay to be yourself. In every true form. Despite what ANYONE says or thinks. Want to paint? Great. Want to change the climate? Fantastic. Want to wear mismatched shoes to the supermarket? Go right ahead! Do the things you want to do now. Do them with pride, with courage and do them with everything you have. Who cares if Sally from down the road has something to say about it. People will always try to bring you down. That only means that you are above them.
I haven’t always had this kind of mindset. I used to be afraid of showing my true self in fear of judgement. And let me tell you, now that I look back on it, I think ‘My gosh Franc, you big dumb dickhead. You spent years trying to please others when you should have been pleasing yourself’. And it’s so true. I have grown up and realised that I am the only one that can make me happy. I am me and that’s bloody amazing! And yes, I will wear odd shoes to the supermarket if I feel like it. Heck, there’s probably someone sitting there reading this right now thinking “Oh my God will this woman just shut up” buutttt I couldn’t give two fucks. I enjoy writing and if you don’t enjoy reading it… then don’t? #toocooltocare
I really do believe that if there was less criticism, there would be more happiness. Let’s live in harmony. Let other people be themselves. Is what they are doing effecting you? Probably not. And even if it is affecting you, do you need to tell them? Also probably not. I’m not saying that no one is entitled to an opinion. I’m saying there’s a time to be loud and a time to be quiet. And we need to be mindful of when and how we use these choices.
People always say “You only live once” but it’s not true. We only die once. We LIVE every day. Do what makes you happy. And fuck the haters. Be unapologetically you.